My narrative scene relates to Hills like White Elephants by Ernest Hemingway, being faced with everyday troubles and having to make a life changing decision. Transitioning through life you will never know what you may be faced with there will be high and lows but you just have to know no matter what is it you can get through it. I was faced with the life changing decision of telling my parents I was in a relation with a woman.
On summer morning around 5:30am I’m siting in the car with Nessa. My mom rushes pass the car on her way to work she stops as Nessa rolls down the window from the drivers seat. “ Hey Mom” I said “Hey I’m on my way to work,” She said as she waves to us rushing pass. The day goes on and its now evening my mom has returned home from work. My dad has prepared dinner and my brother is in his room watching T.V. I’m now in the bathroom getting ready for work as my mom walks upstairs. “How was your day?” She said… I could tell something was on her mind. “Fine” I reply “Who was that in the car this morning, looked like a girl” “ That’s because it was,” I said “What! Dominique stop playing with me” She said “ I laughed mom I dead serious” “I did not raise you like this” “ Mom let it go,” I said I began to walk down the stairs to grab something to eat as I head out for work. She follows me rushes to my dad to “ spill the beans” I suppose. They both immediately began yelling, cursing and saying things they honest didn’t mean. I became extremely emotional exchanged words with them and when on to work. As the night went on I had a lot of time to reflect. “Are you ok?” A co-worker asked I sigh “ Yes I’m Fine” By the end of the night, my mind was made up. I was going distance myself from my parents for a while. Give them their space. Within that next week I moved out into my first apt my mom was devastated because for the first time in our lives we weren’t best friends. It took about a month of being stubborn and standing my ground and standing up for my relationship. For my mom to come around, my phone rings while I’m at work. “Hello” I said “Hey Dom look I’m sorry” She said “ For what” I said “ I should’ve never responded in that way, you are my daughter and I love you. It doesn’t mean I approve, I just want you to know I will always love you.” She said “ I said Thank you mom, I never wanted you guys approval just some respect and I love you too” To me this was very emotional because I am a strong believer in being true to who you are. I honestly believe that a lot of people have a problem with people being gay in the world because other people do. It’s not their personal thoughts on the matter. They just jump on the bandwagon. That moment of clarity between my mom and me was a true breakthrough. I was proud of myself for not only standing up for myself but standing up for love and equality.
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Samantha Flood
2/11/2019 02:25:09 pm
Thank you for posting this story! I am so happy that your mom called you and told you she loves you no matter what in the end. That's important. But I saw the hurt in your story when you felt disrespected about your relationship by your mom and dad. Your story was compelling. You standing your ground was amazing. Great story!
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Chris DUrso
2/11/2019 06:50:01 pm
While I haven't experienced this myself i am glad that you and your mom have patched your relationship up
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Carter Cruse
2/12/2019 04:04:17 am
Thank you for sharing that story I can relate to that I had a relationship my parents didn't approve of not gonna go into details.
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2/12/2019 01:24:00 pm
Thank you for sharing such a story! I personally haven't been in a relationship where my parents didn't approve of but I have many friends that have. I am very happy you and your parents were able to talk again and settle this out. Good luck in the future.
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Kenya McDuffie
3/27/2019 01:23:38 pm
This story was very touching. And I applaud you for being true to yourself despite the adversity you may have faced. Good work!
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